Portland, Tennessee Blog

my kids fater owed 65000 in back child support they finally caught up with him,hooray for us. life is still hard raises kids alone, he abandoned us. he should pay. i get enough child support to live without working and i am so glad he has to work. his kids are grown now.he put the dead in dead beat dads!

i think child support is a joke. It's revengeful, why have children,especially a woman after carrying it for 9 months if you can't support them? I don't understand...ever heard of codependency...that's all it is..let the father goo you pay for your child and be a woman...and as far as i'm concerned welfare is just as bad it's an excuse to be lazy not work and get free money...stop abusing the system..I know this because i help my husband pay his for his child he has his son 3 days a week pays half of daycare buys all clothes and the mother makes a whooping 200 a week and has no bills and never takes him anywhere...sooooo why does she get child support? 500 at that for goodness sake ladies take care of your children and stop taking revenge, he doesn't want you oh well move on, would you rather him be in your kids life or just pay money and explain to your kid later your money hungry and i put daddy in jail because he has no money sorry...think about stop being lazy...it's not about you any more it's about your kid!!! a dad is priceless a paycheck once a month only gets you soo far....oh yes and for those who have more than one and more than one dad please now ur the scum of the earth and your the scam artist you would have been hung 20 years ago

It is MUCH better to have it going through the child support office. This way, every payment is documented through the court and they can't come back later and say that they payed even if they didn't. Even if you are both on good terms, anything could change and you don't want to have to fight with them about paying it. My childrens father lives out of state and they take it out of his check on thursday, then the following week on friday I get it. The first check will take a few weeks, but after that, its consecutive, and will be a once a week thing.

Is it better to have the support-paying parent pay directly to the custodial parent or to child support services and have it forwarded to on? The paying parent is out of state. Also, if it is fowarded, how long does it take for the money to get to your account?

I agree totally with the animosity towards deadbeat parents and the system that just keeps letting these "deadbeats" walk around... especially with ME. Me and my husband are going through the same thing right now and we are on the front end... he got custody back in November of 06 and a small payment of 25 dollars a week was ordered. She finally got a job... we had to call and tell them where she was working it took another 2 months to recieve the first payment and now she has quit. She never worked when they were together and she preys on people who will take care of her so she never will work. I believe if they quit a job after they have been ordered to pay and they owe back support that they should have to go to jail and then be forced to work in one of these factorys and every dime they make should go to the parents that are owed back support.. untill they are payed off.

My ex-husband and I have been divorced since 1995. At that time, he told the judge that his wages needed to be garnished. He would not willingly pay. My son is almost 15 years old. I get 42.46 a week. About 4 years ago, I went to the CS office in Gallatin to try to get more money. Periodically I will check the status of my case. It is still pending. Imagine that. My case worker did tell me that if it does go to court, my current Cs check could be lowered, especially if I make more money than the father.!!! Now, you tell me if that is right? He eats $42 worth of food in just a few days!! His father has never kept medical insurance on him, or helped me out with anything. I guess he figures the $42.46 should keep him in clothes, and buy his food, and his contacts and just etc!!!!

The child spport system could be easily fixed. Instead of making "deals" with the deadbeats (moms and dads) throw their butts in jail. I know the city could make some arrangements with factories, etc. to employ these people. Then use the county buses to haul them to work every morning and pick them up. Their weekly paycheck would then go to pay back child support.

The way the system is now, the punishment is a joke. The deadbeat will lose their drivers licenses like that really hurts. They will go to jail where they are housed and fed everyday and the children will not receive a cent because the deadbeat is not working. They stay in jail until someone comes up with the money to get them out and then the NOT paying child support starts all over again.

I can't understand why the system lets people get go far behind in their payments. How many children are doing without because the custodian parent depends on the child support to SUPPORT their child?

I have no sympathy for anyone that does not take care of their children. They are the scum of the earth.

To be fair, it's not just dad's who are deadbeats. There is a fair share of women too. My ex and I had custody of his two kids from a previous marriage. The mother made a total of four child support payments in six years. She moved from place to place, gave false social #'s, kept having babies and leaving them for people to take care of. Once she managed to stay at a job long enough for her check to be garnished, but that quickly ended when she quit. She owed approximately $13,000 in back child support. She would give a sob story to the court and Child Support Collections would try to work out 'deals' with her. In the meantime, they were so screwed up, my husbands paycheck was garnished three times and our income tax intercepted for three years because for SOME REASON the CS office couldn't seem to understand we had custody and were the ones owed. I'm not sure whether it's the system that needs an overhaul or the employees... I've had several friends who have been going through similar situations over the years.It's a shame you have to go through so much to get a parent to be responsible for their own child.

Oh yes the wonderful child support services, I could write a book on my daughters experiences. My 14yo granddaughters father has paid the equivilant of 2 years in child support, has never seen jail time or had his drivers license revoked, he works 6 months out of the year it takes child support 3 months to catch up with him and have it payroll deducted, weekly amount and get this $10. of the arearages, then he goes on unemployment for 6 months, because he has another child they can only deduct up to 50% of what he draws so she collects half of the her weekly CS amount and the beat goes on! I have no use for DEADBEAT dads, it's so sad the mess this system is in!

I worked at a child support collection office in college and there were people who owed backpay for years and years. It was awful. My advice would be to contact the guy's work over and over again until they take it out automatically.